This week my sister (bless her pointy head) said something that made me stop dead in my tracks and think hard.
Most of us are adults in fact all of us I think. Our world view is pretty much set and is often something we don’t even in fact consider. We are either comfortable with our social status, or working on improving it, and hopefully the adolescent heebie jeebies have settled down. I know this seems off topic but I hope this statement will prove to have a bearing.
I say most of us. I also put forth the theory that once our world view is established and we are comfortable within ourselves we spend less time questioning the world view of others. In other words if we are comfy then surely (unless they display huge insecurity issues) then so must everyone else be.
Now my sis comes in for lunch and as usual knocks on the door knowing full well I am working but unable to resist disturbing. So, we talk and she says “I have a crush on XYZ person but he would never look at someone like me, look what I do for a living (she is an account executive for a local cell phone company) and look how I live!”(we have an old duplex in a very respectable part of town with high property values but not the highest).
Ok so can someone PLEASE tell me what is wrong with that statement or what is wrong with where we live or…why a city councilman would never consider an account executive who lived in a higher middle income community?
I find in webmastering there exists that standard as well. Sploggers vs bloggers tgp vs free sites omg the list of “social” groupings people try and imagine and even sometimes take it on themselves to enforce make me cringe.
I myself confess to having envied more than one wordsmith with the ability to craft these shining towers of interwoven words and double entendres. Imagine the finest blown most intricately designed vase and that is what I see in their words.
However, I also know who I am, and am comfortable with it. Rather than masturbating with my words and displaying them in their beautifully wrought symmetry for others to enjoy with me, I am capable of only the plain word fuck.
Say it. Said it. Good. A sturdy plain brown vase that does what it is intended to do is all my best efforts can create. Though i envy the crafters of wordly majesty I am happy with what I can do. I try not to put the wordsmiths on another social plane nor will I accept them being placed there by another’s judgement. Instead I admire their work and enjoy my own.
However this strange social misperception seems to be growing in the webmastering community, and is to me even more amazing because where it is supposed to be about dollars it seems to some to have become more about “status”.
These are completely artificial social barriers stemming from no business point of view, but instead, arbitrarily erected, ,and summarily enforced by some self appointed magistrates of social standing for no discernable reason beyond that of self aggrandizement. I do not understand those trying to erect them, and understand less those bowing to other’s judgements. It just floors me.
I am comfortable in who I am. I am too busy to examine what others do in depth. I make money with my way. I know many who make money with what they do, whether be they on the top of these false social ladders or no. So how on earth can this be happening?
Every time I see these social epeens trying to establish a “top of the pile” order, my jaw drops. Everytime some silly sod says “blah blah blah I do it better” I cringe. Every time someone listens to and buys into this steaming pile of horse hockey, it makes me burn.
I don’t think I can change my sister, because something in her mind has made her feel less “socially acceptable” than our status determined by our jobs or home say she should be.
I don’t know if I could even change the webmastering community or should even try.
However, I can register my amazement that anyone would allow a stranger to dictate how they feel about their work.

Peace

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